Monthly Archives: November 2015


Family gatherings are important for you and your children to create, nourish and strengthen important relationships with extended members of your family. It does not have to be an elaborate gathering, it can be as simply as all meeting up to watch a child’s sporting event or hanging out for a few hours on the couch, listening to each other, sharing laughs and swapping stories.

The relationships with our extended family should be stronger than our relationship with friends. People will forever come into, and leave our lives and while we do drift apart and may relocate in different areas than our family members, it is important to stay connected.

Family reunions are greats ways gather everyone together, get re-connected and can be alot of fun. Both of my parents come from large families and while I don’t have a close knit relationship with many of my cousins, I like knowing where I come from and family reunions are a great way to reconnect to distant family members.

We are also in the technology age, so learn ways to stay in contact via the computer. There are sites out there like skype that allow you to talk on the computer and see the other person. This is another great way to stay in touch and catch up, while having a slightly more intimate conversation. It is so easy to do and it can mean so much to the person you are reaching out to.

Don’t be afraid to be the one to reach out and make ways to allow your family to get together. Children’s sports activities are a great way to pull people out to watch, visit and make a few hours available for the family.

Establishing a better relationship with extended family members does not require a great deal of energy. Finding ways to have family gatherings will leave a lasting impression and it will give your child a chance to get to know their family background, where their family comes from and build lasting relationships.

Talking about mental health

Mental health is not black and white and it is not just important for parents and childcare providers, although it is an extremely important element for sure. However, it is important for all people!

So many things effect a person’s state of mental well being such as bi-polar and schizophrenia. However, what about depression, sleep deprivation, postpartum, negative self talk or just simply having a sense of not being worthy.

We are going to look at some signs of what people with different possible issues may look like, how it can affect your family if it goes untreated as well as some ways you can work on issues daily so that you strengthen and build your mental well being.

I know that I am always working on mine, sometimes daily. I know that when it is at its strongest and healthiest, I can weather all obstacles thrown at me.

Do you let stress affect your health?, do you find the low valleys are more common and harder to get out? Do you let your works and actives limit you? Then I encourage you to read these upcoming articles, really reflect on your health
Trust me when I say you are not alone, and it is nothing to be ashamed of. There comes a time when each of us need to stand up and say, “Enough” and “I deserve better.”

We talk a lot about being an advocate for your child, to be the voice that speaks up for them. Don’t you deserve the same?

This journey may be one of discomfort, but challenges and change are never comfortable.

I am going to leave you with this saying….

“”Dear life, when I said, “Could this day get any harder?” it was a rhetorical question, not a challenge.”

Are you prepared, mentally, for the next challenge life has coming your way? For we know it’s coming. How you prepare for it is up to you.

PRESCHOOL CRAFTS: Inspired by children

When you follow a child’s interest it can lead you anywhere. You can find interesting preschool crafts, activities for kids, play games, have great family travels and family fun. You also build your child’s self worth and belief that their thoughts matter and that someone is listening to them.

How do these interests come about?

These interests can come about rather innocently, from watching something on TV, reading it in a book or even from the fun remembered on a family vacation.

How do you make an interest become something more?

Give your child/children the reins. Don’t be afraid to follow their lead on an interest. It can be hard, as we may also get excited, but really try to allow your child to give you the answers and not impose your ideas onto them. Ask them open questions, research the interest and if the excitement remains or even grows, then by listening to your child and implanting their thoughts and ideas it will grow.

What if they don’t come up with ideas?

When I notice a child has a specific interest I begin the process slowly. I watch them, see what they are excited about and then will provide a picture book that supports it, or maybe something on the internet. Then we start the research:
“What do you see in this picture”
“What do you think it is used for”
“What would you use it for”

Each question may lead you to another and so forth. The learning may take off in a completely different direction, but run with it.

What you are giving is invaluable. You are teaching your child to be a critical thinker, to ask questions and find out the answers. More importantly you are giving your child your attention, your time and the opportunity to share what matters to them.

I have made my first you-tube video that will show you the awesome power of following a child’s interest. It briefly tells the story of why the interest happened and one preschool craft we did with it.

PARENTING PROGRAMS: programs and courses for parents and caregivers

Being a parent does not come with a training manual. Parenting programs and courses are a great way to gather parenting tips and advice from professionals on many different topics and issues you may be needed some extra support with.

From time to time, parents may choose to attend classes or programs that help them learn parenting skills. There are many places that offer classes that assist parents, some of them often for little or no cost.

If you are interested in taking a parenting class, here are some people or places to look to for information on what may be available:

1. Your gym can help if you are pregnant and wanting a few classes on exercises suitable while pregnant.

2. Your Ob can recommend parenting classes for new parents. These classes can teach things from diapering skills to different ways to use relaxation techniques and stress management for yourself when your baby won’t stop crying.

3. Red Cross offers child safe first aid that will give you the confidence in how to deal with a variety of first aid procedures you will want to know.

4.Your Pediatrician/GP may be able to suggest programs that will help with positive parenting skills and health eating for toddlers and children.

5.Community Education Programs are adult education courses offered in the evening. In addition to classes on art, computer and language skills, they often will hold classes on parenting classes.

6.Places of Worship often offer classes and programs for parents or can give suggestions on where to look.

7. Online will give you many lists of classes that can help you learn parenting tips and skills or you can even do them from the comfort of your home.

Parenting programs and classes are made to help parents deal with challenges they come across when dealing with their child or teen. These programs will teach parents how they will best be able to handle the situation.


It’s exciting when kids activities have evolved from a child’s thought or interpretation. When you witness a child observe something within his or her environment, takes it and makes it into a learning experience it shows just how creative children can be when given an opportunity.

Sometimes children do this to learn more about what they are seeing and figuring things out through play, while sometimes it’s something that they recall enjoying and express a desire to experience it again.

Have you ever watched a child, in wonder, as he or she reinvent their world or act out other people’s activities? Think of how you supported this and how it made that child feel that you were interested.

There are ways we as adults can take his or her ideas and give ways for there to be further exploration. We can create videos from still pictures to recreate and show children, we can observe them and give them different opportunities to explore, discover and recreate their interests.

Like with everything, it’s important to remember that no two children are alike. They will experience and take in the same information and find their own unique way to express what they see. I am going to share some exciting moments where children have come up with some extremely creative learning opportunities, ways that I have encouraged their ideas and supported their learning. I hope that these articles will make you smile, laugh and understand how much potential young children have when their ideas are supported.

If you have any special moments of kids activities I encourage you to share with the readers at active parenting tips. Together we can learn and share and inspire each other to continue giving children every opportunity available to encourage their learning.


Some people find strength and confidence by joining parenting groups. There are many different types of parenting groups and parent education courses that can meet the needs of your family. If you are finding that you are needing extra support this may be a great resource for you.


Parent groups are when a group of parents or a child’s main care provider, such as grandparent, aunt, uncle, sibling, adopted or foster parent reaches out for help in a group setting. They are individuals who have concerns or in need of guidance on parenting issues.


Like with choosing a childcare program, you will need to look at what your individual needs are. Are you looking for a support group that will help with children with special needs, single parent families, troubled children or teens or just on managing the stress of parenting.

Look at what the group philosophy is, read up on the facilitator, and make sure that this will be a match to you and your beliefs. You will not be able to get the most out of a support group if it clashes with your beliefs.


Each organization and support group may use different ways to lead the session.

Parents may be provided with information on different support their community has to offer.

Some support groups may have the resources to have specialists visit and give talks on different topics.

A support group can provide a safe place for parents to open up and talk about their fears and concerns they are experiencing.


With the internet at our finger tips, ways to find information out has become easier. You can also contact your local YMCA and inquire with them on different programs with your community. Sometimes your local rec center will also be able to point you into the right direction.

These groups can be a great resource and a way to meet other parents within your community.


Being a parent is a wonderful thing; however, it’s not always easy. Positive parenting is a responsibility and for each family, how they tackle it may look different. Parenting groups, programs, skills and sharing tips can help.

I hope that the information in this topic can show you how you can use techniques you may already know to guide, nurture and encourage your child and build your confidence as a parent.

We will look at managing the stress of balancing the family life, different ways of getting extended support like parenting groups, and programs that may be available to you. We are also going to look at some positive skills and tips that will also enhance and impact your family.

Parents will find ways to may reduce the pressure in the home and different ways that can help with their child’s behaviour through different easy to do techniques. In fact, parents may find that it makes the difference between their child’s behaviour getting out of control, and helping them manage everyday life in better ways.

Knowing the different techniques of dealing with children is one thing; however applying them is a another. We are going to look at ways to help create, apply and maintain a happy and supportive home environment.

Have you read different books regarding children’s behaviour and helpful techniques but still need to fine tune ways to implement it? I hope readers will add what works for them because each family and child are unique.

There is no simple recipe; it takes time for children to learn how to behave, and for parents to work out the best way of getting the best out of their child. Implementing a parenting plan is a great way to start.

BODY IMAGE: how children view themelves, why and what are we going to do to help.

Body image and the way we view ourselves starts at childhood. By the time our children reach their teens, they are becoming influenced by the media through models, singers, actors/actresses and peers.

Models, singers and actresses are presented as what is supposed to be considered attractive and this reinforces the message that only a thin body is an attractive one. It is important for parents to be able to promote a healthy self image in their teen as part of helping their child have an overall positive way they view themselves..

Think back to a time when someone you looked up to maybe made a comment about how you looked, what you wore or your size. How did it affect you?

For many children, it will affect them in a negative way that they may carry with them for years.

We are going to look at what can lead children and teens to suffer from depression, to develop eating disorders, and how it causes low self worth.

We are then going to look at developing and creating a parent plan, looking at eating healthy, healthy fitness for teens and how we can help our children and teen recognize that they are beautiful as they are.

As a society, we are becoming more aware of how the way we view our body can be closely linked to self-esteem, especially for preteens and teens. That’s because as kids develop into teens, they care more about how others see them.

We need to start influencing our young children to look at themselves as a beautiful individual and this needs to start today.


Christmas was always an important holiday for my family growing up. Not only because we celebrate the birth of Jesus in my family , but because it was only of the few times my whole extended family would gather together.

We would spend the morning opening presents, my dad, mom and two brothers, then off to Grandpa and Grandma Kelly’s to see Dad’s family followed by the night with my mom’s family.

My 26 cousins, 7 uncles and 7 aunts would rather loudly invade my Grandparents home. There would be a sharing, hugs, double cheeked kisses, laughter, good food, stories and Grandpa’s famous tracker gas. I can recall the mini tree in the sitting room, the large family photos taken one year, and all the cousins down in the basement, noise echoing off the walls and the snow.

The holidays means something different to everyone, yet each memory or tradition is just as important. In this next set of articles I am going to share a few of the different activities my family enjoyed over the season and some fun activities you can enjoy doing with your children and family.

I hope that it will inspire you to create lasting memories for you and your children, as this is a great way to bond and strength your relationships. And as we all know from my past articles, this is key for children developing an overall healthy state of well being.

So lets share over a glass of cheer and talk about some favorite craft ideas you can do with children, some delicious family recipes, homemade gifts your children can make, vacation retreats, carols and more.

At the end of each article there will be a spot for you to add your thoughts, and share your most memorable moment or activity. I hope that each of you will take a few minutes and share with us.

May all of you enjoy and experience the magic of Christmas.


Promoting and building a child’s self worth is like building the foundation for a lifetime of mental health and social happiness. It is the foundation of a child or teen’s well being and the key to their success as an adult.

Think back at your childhood, to things that may have been said or done that effect how you feel about yourself. How it effects how you act today. Did these negative things that were said or done that made you feel less important, that you did not matter?
Think about a time when you were feeling really good about yourself.

It is our responsibility to make very sure we are building a positive foundation of how our children will feel about themselves, that we are doing nothing to weaken this fragile foundation.
We are going to look at what a healthy self image is before venturing into what a healthy image can do for a child. We are going to look and the causes and effects of what a negative self imagine can do to a child and the ramifications that can have.

We are going to look at some easy and quick techniques that everyone can do daily to foster and build a child or teen’s image and some long term ways to promote and continue strengthen their well being.

As we journey through this topic and go into maybe some uncomfortable territory, reflect back on your own childhood to help guide you through. A child’s belief about how they are and how they view their self is a fragile thing, it is a special gift we are given to mold, strengthen and build.


Bullying will affect all children somehow throughout they life. Whether they are the victim, a person watching from the sidelines, or the one participating. The impact can be life altering and, sadly, can lead to someone taking their own life.

In these next set of articles we are going to look at what to watch for, the effects, teaching children appropriate behaviours and tips on reducing this scary trend.

As parents and educators, we need to be more alert and aware of the signs of this happening around us. In this article we are going to look at what to watch for in children. You are your child’s number one advocate and need to realize that they may not come to us for fear of retribution or embarrassment.

Understanding and being aware that these actions can have negative effects on both the victim and the bully that last for a long time, sometimes a life time is important. We are going to look at and how it affects the bully and where it can lead them down life’s journey. Also, we are going to look at how if effects the victim, how we can nurture their self esteem and help them cope and overcome.

By teaching prevention with young children, they are given valuable tools. We are going to look at how we can start teaching children the skills they need to resist and to prevent this behaviour.

Studies have shown that these tendencies can be spotted in children as young as three years old. This is why is it so important to begin teaching preschoolers compassion and empathy. We are going to look at tips on ways to promote pro-social behaviours and attitudes in children that will assist in the reduction and the likelihood of these destructive behaviours.

No child should feel that the only to deal with being treated this way is to let it happen or by ending their life. Teaching children at a young age about respecting others, compassion and empathy, and how they can stand up for themselves and for others, we can build up their self esteem and self worth . When children are taught these skills prior to school age, they are given the foundation that they can build on.