While raising children in a split home or solely on your own may not be an easy task, single parents can and do successfully raise and parent their children. Many important factors will effect your children. Such as, how to co-parent in a positive and healthy way, manage parental stress, child support, and making a support network to help you and your child through the different struggles that may arise.Throughout my years of experience in child care, I have worked with countless children and families that came from different backgrounds. I have seen some very well adjusted children and some that have struggled along the way. I hope that this topic will help give you some added strength, support and guidance on the journey of single parenting.
The effects of single parenting on the children
One of the biggest parenting tips I can share, is that our number one concern and focus should be on the child(ren). Think of all the emotions you are going through and then place that into the mind and body of a small child, who doesn’t understand, has yet to master coping skills, and has had no say in any significant life decisions. Your child will need help and support too, but the exciting news is that they can adapt and thrive in a single parent home. We will look at some of the ways you and those involved in your child’s life work together to ensure that your child becomes adjusted and starts to thrive, reaching and maintaining a happy, healthy and balanced lifestyle.
Co-Parenting in a positive and healthy way
It may seem hard to co-parent when there is a history and past hurts, however, there needs to be clear communication and a respectful relationship between both parties for the well being of your child. Remember children hear and see everything, even if they are out of the room. They will pick up any and all feelings you have towards each other and this could be very harmful. It will be imperative to be on the same page regarding behavior, discipline, and routines to give the child a sense of security.It will not be easy, in fact it may be tough going, especially at first. However by keeping your child’s well being in the forefront, you can learn to effectively co-parent while maintaining your sanity and self-respect.
Manage the parental stress
This is a major component to being a successful single parent. You will need to find construction and healthy ways to manage your stress, be it emotional or financial.
You will want to investigate child support early on in your separation. This may mean lawyers and lawyer fees, but for some families it’s imperative for the financial stability of the family. There are many services available to you that will help walk through these steps. It is a turbulent time, but remember you are not alone in this journey, others have gone before you and will help you through.
In many areas of our lives we come to a place where we need to accept and be able to ask for help. This is not a sign of weakness but one of strength. Surround yourself with positive people who have gone through this journey and have been successful. Accept help from other families who may be able to watch your child, giving you a break when needed. Parent groups and support groups are also available and can be a great healing for many. You know your needs and what it will take to get through these tough times. You just need to believe in yourself and in your inner strength.
Just the beginning
This topic is full of emotions and anxiety. My hope is that some of these feelings will be eliminated by giving you tools and the confidence to trust in your abilities to provide and guide your child to being the best they can be.